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Fights With Your Partner: Convincing Reasons You Should Not Shoot from the Hip
And How to Stop
Recently, I’ve noticed a pattern in my behavior during heated moments with my wife, where I often resort to knee-jerk reactions. For instance, when she expresses concerns about my spending habits, I immediately become defensive and start justifying every purchase. In discussions about household responsibilities, I tend to interrupt her to assert my efforts, overlooking her contributions.
And whenever she suggests changes in our routines, I have a tendency to instinctively resist, arguing in favor of the present state of affairs without fully considering her perspective. These reactions are impulsive and not always conducive to constructive dialogue, something I’m increasingly becoming aware of and working to improve.
Do you react clumsily to criticism from your partner? Unfortunately, many people shoot from the hip. Rather than wisely contemplating helpful responses to critical remarks, they retaliate fast with spiteful accusations.
Quick-draw tongue-lashings ruin your relationship
Unlike a shooter in the Wild West, your survival doesn’t depend on fast retaliation during a disagreement. Still, criticism can feel like an assault on your heart, and you may…
